The Moon and Matrescence

In this post, I want to talk about something that I believe symbolizes the changes we go through during matrescence, or the process of becoming a mother or parent. It has both a constant and ever-changing presence and that something is the moon. 

Each lunar cycle takes just over 29 days or roughly a month. As the moon orbits around Earth, varying amounts of sunlight reflect off its surface. We label the differences we see from our perspective here on Earth as phases. The new moon marks the start of a new lunar cycle. We can’t see the moon during this phase, because the lit side is facing away from us here on Earth. The moon then “waxes” or grows during the first half of the cycle until it is fully illuminated. You’ll see just a sliver of light at first, with the moon in the shape of a beautiful crescent. Halfway to the full moon it will be halfway visible. This is called the first quarter phase. As the illuminated portion continues to grow, we call it a waxing gibbous until it becomes the often celebrated full moon. After the full moon, it “wanes” or diminishes during the second half of the cycle. From gibbous to third quarter to crescent again, the moon slowly shrinks until we can no longer see any light. The cycle begins again. 

The average menstrual cycle also lasts about 29 days, so the moon has long been a symbol of fertility in many cultural and spiritual traditions. The word “menstruation” even has ties to a Greek and Latin word for moon. Still today, many people incorporate the lunar cycle into the tracking of their own personal one.

Is There Really a Connection Between Your Menstrual Cycle and the Moon? | Healthline

The lunar cycle typically happens twelve times per year, with a full moon falling once per calendar month. The Gregorian calendar most of us around the world use doesn’t quite align, so the specific day of each full moon will shift. Every once in a while, there will be thirteen full moons in one calendar year. One calendar month will end up hosting two full moons, one near the beginning and one at the end. We call this second full moon in one month a “blue moon”. Have you ever heard the phrase, “once in a blue moon”? This is where it comes from!

What is a Blue Moon in Astronomy? | Sky & Telescope

Native Americans named each full moon based on what was going on in nature during that time of the year as a way of tracking time. Different indigenous nations used different names, and this practice was adopted by colonizers, as well. So names varied. The Farmers’ Almanac has lots of great information on the different names and how they came to be, if you’re interested in learning more. It can be a great way to connect with and be more mindful of the natural world.

Full Moon Names | Almanac

Like I said at the beginning of this discussion, the moon can serve as a symbol for the changes we go through as we become parents. Just like the moon “waxes” from new to full, we all grow and develop as people and into our new role. And just like the moon “wanes” from full back to new, there are parts of us that we must release or let go. These changes do happen throughout our entire life, but it can be particularly dramatic during this time. 

Also, during this turbulent transformation, it can often feel like we lose pieces of our former selves. These feelings are normal during a time of such profound change, but that doesn’t mean it’s easy. There’s a quote from an unknown source I want to share with you that might be helpful. “The moon is a reminder that no matter what phase I am in, I am still whole.”

I also love the idea of using the moon as a framework for journaling or planning. The new moon is a great time to set intentions and goals for the waxing phases of each cycle. Celebrate growth and accomplishments during the full moon, and prepare to let go of what is no longer serving you. The waning phases are a perfect time for reflection, rest, and release. Wax and wane. Grow and let go. Accomplish and rest. The moon reminds us of the importance of balance.

If you found this discussion interesting, consider adding some moon magic into your life. Maybe you can appreciate the symbolism and ties to fertility or want to deepen your connection to nature. Maybe you’re intrigued by the idea of using the lunar cycle as a framework for journal prompts or goal setting.

Or, at least, from time to time, I hope you gaze up at the moon and are reminded that your role as a parent is both steadfast and ever-evolving.